Why Women Cheat (Past Comments) – Truth About Deception
Past Comments – Why Women Cheat
"what has happened once can be forgiven and never will repeated again but what has happened twice will defiantly repeats again and again"
Therefore to prove your loyalty to your playmate you must think about decently before beginning to rebuild your fresh relationships. When you both achieve to be loyal to each other it will be strong relationships and you are both will love each other more hence you have being through very difficult test.
Good luck and a Glad Fresh Year to you all
I too have cheated on my hubby. What’s strange is he is wonderful and we have a excellent relationship both sexually and emotionally. The man I cheated with meant nothing, purely physical. I debated on telling my hubby, being fair (which I totally agree with btw, in just about all cases. This being one, where I don’t think honesty is the best policy). Reason being, not because I don’t think I should be fair, not because I don’t think I deserve to suffer the abasement of knowing what I did to him, how I betrayed him, because I totally do. If I am truly fair with myself, I have to admit that I would only be telling him to relieve my self of the guilt. So we can either work it out or budge on. Is it truly fair to him? Why should I break his heart, why should I make him suffer the abjection of everyone knowing, and him feeling that he was made a idiot of. I don’t think I should. You know that old telling "What he doesn’t know, won’t hurt him" is actually true, in my opinion. Don’t get me wrong, I am not condoning what I did, it was truly horrible, selfish, disrespectful, and I am the largest coward. I do truly feel guilty, and I am truly sorry for what I have done. The penalty I will suffer is always knowing what I did. But I will never ever tell him, because I will not break his heart. Sorry for the long post, also this is just my opinion, you have to do what you feel is right for your relationship. You mentioned that you kissed an old friend. Cheating is cheating, I under stand this, however smooching someone vs. having lovemaking with someone, I feel that smooching is not as serious, certainly not worth taking a chance an eight year relationship just to make yourself feel better. At least you realize that you made a mistake, and I think that people that realize the error of their ways, usually feel guilty enough to not do it again. Again, just my opinion. Good Luck to you.
I unluckily have been also been in a friendship/romantic relationship with a friend of mine for six years, always only texting, albeit the texting is not harmless.
My bf, just last night eyed some of them, and I guess I just would like to talk to some people who have been through similar situations to know how to proceed next.
I realize now that all I want is to keep my bf and am willing to do whatever it takes.
Sorry for the long post. Please advice. there are three kids that are suffering.
and if you have cheated on someone if you want to be with them you should tell them and if you don’t tell them you are doing two selfish things and also your relationship is fake because relationship are made of trust and loyalty and if you don’t have that there is no relationship and if you don’t want to be with them you end the relationship.and also if you can’t be trustworthy then what is your use in the world because everything is built on trust.and also your standing in the way of finding someone that they can trust and be loyal to them.
and also I don’t think no man or women should have a person of the opposite lovemaking that you text or call all the time that just take’s away from the relationship inbetween you and your fucking partner.
Can you live with being both a liar and a cheat?
I think we usually know what the right thing to do is, what we choose usually depends on whether we are governed by love or by fear.
the truth is. man just leave her. you love her but she doesn’t love u. thats a killer
you can’t switch her. i am in your footwear right now, and however hard it is. you will shove through.
I have been with my bf for two and a half years, recently we took a journey together for the summer whereby I had to come home before him. I hadn’t drank alcohol decently in months & when I got home I went on a bender with my two old friends. One of which was pulling down me home & I kissed him. I didn’t mean it, and I don’t know where it came from. One minute I was having a good time, the next I just kissed him. It meant nothing and I have no feelings for him, never did. I was gutted to leave my beau after spending all our time together on the excursion, it was like I had such an insecurity and loneliness I kissed my friend out of missing him. It sounds so terrible, but it’s the only way I can think why it happened. I always slated cheaters before, it was such a no-no in my life, and I said the most horrible things about anyone who did such a thing. And so, when it happened to me my life fell apart in the worst way you could imagine. I wished to die, I didn’t know who I was, what I stood for anymore, why I did what I did, I didn’t know what my life was, I still don’t know. I was on the edge of suicide and my family organized for me to see a counselor who has been helping me. My bf is home soon and I will tell him as soon as I see him, I don’t want lies in my life, and I don’t want him to live a lie. I love him so, I know many will say otherwise but if you could see me now, I’m a shadow of the person I used to be. My family is shook, imp in bits, I suppose my question is, do I deserve forgiveness? Is it possible for things to be ok in the future? I would give my life for him, so I’d be ready to do just about anything. I’m helping myself in the meantime by reading fountains and I haven’t drank in over a month, I also haven’t been out, I don’t see anyone. I’m just studying and using the gym alot, I can’t bear to be around others. I feel like my life it over. Can anyone give me advice or help? Please no manhandle, I have enough agony in my life I assure you.
Even if you still love her, time is the best remedy, and a fresh playmate makes it a hell quicker.
After four 1/Two years she left me on my 40th bday and got married a year later.
That was five years ago. It severely bruised my self confidence. I am still single, and will more than likely be alone for the rest of my life.
If your cheating – GET. OUT OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP.
But as a human I have a conscience, something other animals lack. I have self respect. I keep my word. I love using my penis as much as any boy. Hell, I love women. The female form is proof that there is a god. Still tho’ I have never cheated on any woman and I never would.
And you know what? IT ISN’T HARD TO BE FAITHFUL! It isn’t about your playmate or his/her shortcomings. If you cheat, whatever your excuses or rationalizations, it all comes down to you and you alone in the end.
If you are stupid enough to help breed more untrustworthy people, then congratulations, you are just as much of a low life. Be kind to yourself, be proud of being a trustworthy person and leave the shit behind, no matter how long you’ve known them. Sorry, it’s the truth.
Guys cheat more? Almost every post here about cheating once or numerous times on their playmate is by a woman.
just leave, especially if they are the mother of your kids.
He lives on the West Coast and she traveled with her job so they would meet at locations around the country. He and his wifey were friends we meet twenty years earlier in Germany.
I confronted her and she confessed. She was ashamed and did not want anyone else to know so as not to ruin his family or ours. After a while I forgave her, but did not trust her. And as she said "I am what I am"
Since then I had spot checked her email and phone records. By chance my suspensions were confirmed when I got an email from a hotel chain we use thanking her for staying in the town he lives in.
So after 35yrs of marriage I have accepted this affair. I have too much at stake and do not want to lower my sons view of his mother. My mother was the town whore and one of the reasons I left. For her faults my wifey does not shove it my face and keeps it hidden.
Because of my mother she has always held that I would be the one to cheat. Not once did I come on to any woman even when they came on to me. I am glad to be true to myself. As I told her, she is human and not flawless. She feels she is helping this suicidal old fart feel good about himself and always has the heart for the lost soul.
She indeed was the last woman that I thought would cheat. But the ideal situation permitted her to feel she would not get caught.
So in conclusion, "All women are #$#$#, but don’t ask your dad." You can ask my dad and me. I will not be so quick to turn down any advances in the future. I assume this is more the European view and not the Puritan American view.
Thanks for this forum. I only confided in one friend after the initial crush of 2008. This helps me get this off my chest.
I don’t have the time or effort to mess with someone else.
Don’t need the high drama BS.
We had good times,bad times i tho’ we are blessed. I was going to marry her. Then she went aboard for studies, i felt she is not providing me attention and i felt lonely. Then i found out she is cheating on me with that other dude and it seems like they in love. I accepted that i wasn’t flawless, i told i do my best , i switch i become more better. We talked and it seemed alright. But then i found out same evening when she broke up with this boy they had lovemaking again. I felt totally cracked, that was out of my logic. I was parting for two months, other ladies seemed to appreciate me for whom i am and what i do. One time i got so toasted and wrote her a letter, i think it hurt her, i was telling what i was feeling. After that i apologized, she said she has some feelings toward me and that other dude too, and that its hard for her to be alone so she is now with that other dude, but she doesn’t know whom to choose. I told her "Darling, after five years of relationship you don’t know whom to choose? You have clearly made you mind already". So i made a choice for us both and told her we can be only friends, nothing more. She didn’t seem to be blessed. At some point it was hell to liberate person that meant more than life. But her i’m sprinting, doing sport ( Getting back in to form, feeling so glad about that), and dreaming again. But that drama was the worst i felt, considering my father cheated on my mother and i had to grow without father. What was on that chicks mind i wont ever understand, i hardly believe she does know either.
I’m afraid some people just don’t understand what they are and where are they going. I gave myself duo years, to become someone everyone would be jealous, i guess that’s my payback yo my fate Might not be righteous aim, but at least i have now a objective i’m working hard toward it.
I messed up and I slept with someone else, I thought it would divert me from the ache I’m feeling in this relationship but it made it worse.
I have been with my bf, on and off for almost four years. He had come out from rehab at age 20-21 because of alcohol and drug manhandle. I didn’t know him before and he told me the truth about it all and we continued on as fresh fresh relationships do. He asked me to marry him a year into the relationship and we spent alot of time together w his family doing all duo and family related things. Then. I met a fellow at a party I went to and had him as a friend. He is a Christian and we were friends just talking and he was in interested in me. I chatted with him and told my beau I had met a friend at the party – when he actually took my phone and spotted the messages he eyed that I would talk with him bout random things (not relationship things) he got jealous and treated me like I had slept with the boy (which I never did – man wasn’t my type at all eww) he went back to smoking and treating me like I had done the worst thing in life towards him and was the bad stud. So now I’m stuck in this messed up relationship because he forever menaces to make my life unlikely if I leave him. He has left me in the dark with his life since then and I am sure he has talked to other damsels and has been involved in the nastiest things but . am I forever stuck here because I know I can budge on but find the lift to guide me there?
My wifey cheated on me three times, 4-6 months every times, and that was thirty years ago. She cheated while we were dating, then when we were living together, and ultimately, when we had a kid, and she had an affair with my best friend. After that, believe me, you don’t trust anybody anymore. Cheating is aggressive. For every one hour of her fucking, will take a year of your life (at least) to get over.
So why didn’t I leave? Well, thanks to wonderful therapy, you are more or less persuaded that somehow your flaws caused it. Then again, thirty years ago, things were different, there was free love, and all that b.s. So somehow it gets buried. For me the anguish came out of the grave one year ago, and it is all like it happened yesterday. Incredible how your brain will let you reminisce those things in minute detail, while you only vaguely reminisce the good things.
So, my ordinary advice is this: for all of the women out there thinking that somehow they are justified in cheating, why don’t you just hire a thug and break your man’s arms and gams so he can spend a duo of months in the hospital. It is far less painful.
If your man is not able to leave you, then you should leave him. In the end he will have to suffer and you will get tired of him not “forgiving” you. But guess what. It is not about forgiving. What you did is to ruin the magical spell, that made him believe that he is the only one. You made him see the harsh reality that he is not special. For him it is like Santa Clause. Once he knows Santa is not real, he knows ig for life, and nothing can switch it.
I am sorry to be so pessimistic, but I am speaking from practice.
So all of you guys out there, for your own peace of mind… leave. And it is true… once a cheater (and get away with it) always a cheater.