The Right Way to Pick Her Up at the Gym
The Right Way to Pick Her Up at the Gym
Take it from these top female trainers: Effectively picking up a damsel at the gym can be more challenging than the roughest workout. Fortunately, similar rules apply: Take it slow, don’t overstretch, and be realistic about your goals. Here, the best tips that’ll make her switch her concentrate from working out to going out—with you.
1. Become a Regular. People tend to hit the gym at similar times, and she’ll be more likely to want to have a conversation with you if she recognizes you than if you’re a total stranger. And the best way to get to know someone is to add some classes to your schedule. “I’m a Spin instructor, and I always see participants talking before class,” says Jenna Vozella, who is also a private trainer and fitness blogger at A Fit Doll’s Martini. “Ask if she’s taken the class before, if there are other instructors she recommends, or if there’s a healthy place to get a smoothie or snack around the gym.”
Two. Don’t Compliment Her Assets. Yes, Lycra leaves little to the imagination, but her mindset when she’s wearing running gear in the park is very different than when she’s wearing spandex in the club. “Even a well-meaning compliment can catch a woman off guard and make her feel weird,” says Stephanie Coburn, USA Triathlon Certified Coach for JackRabbit Sports. “Instead, initiate a low-key conversation about training, local races, or anything that permits you to actually have a back-and-forth conversation. That way, she won’t be put on the spot and you’ll both be able to determine whether you have things in common.”
Trio. Compliment Her Garment Instead. At the gym, your conversation entryway might be literally written on her back. According to Jessica Green and Meghan Reynolds, founders of Brooklyn’s HotBirdRunning, asking about her outfit’s a good call. If she’s wearing a race t-shirt, ask her if she did it and what it was like. Or if any gear stands out—a cool top, a bright headband, whatever—say something like ‘I’m attempting to find a bounty for my cousin/sister/friend, and she has similar taste. Where did you get your stuff?’ It initiates a conversation without putting her on the spot.”
Four. Mate Up. “I train co-ed boot camp, and I’ve had more than a few guys get in the back row while we’re doing mountain climbers so they can ‘check out the view.’ This technology is … less than ideal,” says Famisha La’Pree J-Millman, certified private trainer and bootcamp instructor at Sparkle Ladies Fitness. “Instead, when you’re going into a hard set, head over to the person you’re interested in and ask if you want to work on tricep dips together so you can accomplish the utter set.”
Five. Impress With Your Personality, Not Your Pecs. You may think lifting a massive amount will catch her eye, but chances are, she’s not even paying attention, leaving you at risk for injury…or embarrassment. “Leave your ego at the door and actually go up and talk to her if you’re interested!” says Jolynn Toma, individual trainer and fitness blogger at Lift Plead Love.
6. Ask Her For Help. “If she’s near the treadmill or elliptical, ask if she can help you figure out the buttons on the machine—say you usually are in the weight room or taking a certain class, but wished to attempt this out,” says Nikki Glor, individual trainer and author of The Slimnastics Workout. “Then, you can ask about her workout routine. Just wait until she’s either stepping on or getting off the machine, or else you run the risk of annoying her.”
7. Dress to Impress. “If you don’t look and smell good, don’t even waste your time beginning a conversation,” says Glor. “That means no wifebeaters and no cut-offs that display your assets. A clean t-shirt, baggy cut-offs, and white socks are key.”
8. Don’t Be a Know It All. “I can’t stand when a boy attempts to correct my form, especially when he has no idea I can do more pull-ups them him,” says Rachel Buschert, a private trainer at Rachelvfitness. “Instead, shove the ego aside and find something that you can honestly compliment her. And be veritable about it, like: ‘Wow I don’t how you can do a plank for so long, they are so hard!’ If she smiles, you know you can begin a friendly conversation. If she rolls her eyes, she’s not into you, so don’t shove it!”
9. Get Your Timing Right. “It can be annoying for anyone to treatment you when you’re in the middle of a set or a workout, so the best time to make a budge is right when she’s finished,” says Sarah Ponn, Fitness Director at SurfSetFitness. “And ask for advice! Say you’ve noticed her doing x workout, or wondered about y stir. Showcasing a genuine interest in what she’s doing is flattering, not cheesy. I met my bf at the gym, so it can be done!”
The Right Way to Pick Her Up at the Gym
The Right Way to Pick Her Up at the Gym
Take it from these top female trainers: Effectively picking up a lady at the gym can be more challenging than the harshest workout. Fortunately, similar rules apply: Take it slow, don’t overstretch, and be realistic about your goals. Here, the best tips that’ll make her switch her concentrate from working out to going out—with you.
1. Become a Regular. People tend to hit the gym at similar times, and she’ll be more likely to want to have a conversation with you if she recognizes you than if you’re a total stranger. And the best way to get to know someone is to add some classes to your schedule. “I’m a Spin instructor, and I always see participants talking before class,” says Jenna Vozella, who is also a individual trainer and fitness blogger at A Fit Doll’s Martini. “Ask if she’s taken the class before, if there are other instructors she recommends, or if there’s a healthy place to get a smoothie or snack around the gym.”
Two. Don’t Compliment Her Bod. Yes, Lycra leaves little to the imagination, but her mindset when she’s wearing running gear in the park is very different than when she’s wearing spandex in the club. “Even a well-meaning compliment can catch a woman off guard and make her feel weird,” says Stephanie Coburn, USA Triathlon Certified Coach for JackRabbit Sports. “Instead, initiate a low-key conversation about training, local races, or anything that permits you to actually have a back-and-forth conversation. That way, she won’t be put on the spot and you’ll both be able to determine whether you have things in common.”
Three. Compliment Her Clothing Instead. At the gym, your conversation entryway might be literally written on her back. According to Jessica Green and Meghan Reynolds, founders of Brooklyn’s HotBirdRunning, asking about her outfit’s a good call. If she’s wearing a race t-shirt, ask her if she did it and what it was like. Or if any gear stands out—a cool top, a bright headband, whatever—say something like ‘I’m attempting to find a bounty for my cousin/sister/friend, and she has similar taste. Where did you get your stuff?’ It initiates a conversation without putting her on the spot.”
Four. Mate Up. “I train co-ed boot camp, and I’ve had more than a few guys get in the back row while we’re doing mountain climbers so they can ‘check out the view.’ This mechanism is … less than ideal,” says Famisha La’Pree J-Millman, certified private trainer and bootcamp instructor at Shine Ladies Fitness. “Instead, when you’re going into a hard set, head over to the person you’re interested in and ask if you want to work on tricep dips together so you can finish the utter set.”
Five. Impress With Your Personality, Not Your Pecs. You may think lifting a massive amount will catch her eye, but chances are, she’s not even paying attention, leaving you at risk for injury…or embarrassment. “Leave your ego at the door and actually go up and talk to her if you’re interested!” says Jolynn Toma, private trainer and fitness blogger at Lift Plead Love.
6. Ask Her For Help. “If she’s near the treadmill or elliptical, ask if she can help you figure out the buttons on the machine—say you usually are in the weight room or taking a certain class, but wished to attempt this out,” says Nikki Glor, individual trainer and author of The Slimnastics Workout. “Then, you can ask about her workout routine. Just wait until she’s either stepping on or getting off the machine, or else you run the risk of annoying her.”
7. Dress to Impress. “If you don’t look and smell good, don’t even waste your time embarking a conversation,” says Glor. “That means no wifebeaters and no cut-offs that demonstrate your assets. A clean t-shirt, baggy cut-offs, and white socks are key.”
8. Don’t Be a Know It All. “I can’t stand when a stud attempts to correct my form, especially when he has no idea I can do more pull-ups them him,” says Rachel Buschert, a individual trainer at Rachelvfitness. “Instead, shove the ego aside and find something that you can honestly compliment her. And be veritable about it, like: ‘Wow I don’t how you can do a plank for so long, they are so hard!’ If she smiles, you know you can begin a friendly conversation. If she rolls her eyes, she’s not into you, so don’t shove it!”
9. Get Your Timing Right. “It can be annoying for anyone to treatment you when you’re in the middle of a set or a workout, so the best time to make a stir is right when she’s finished,” says Sarah Ponn, Fitness Director at SurfSetFitness. “And ask for advice! Say you’ve noticed her doing x workout, or wondered about y stir. Displaying a genuine interest in what she’s doing is flattering, not cheesy. I met my beau at the gym, so it can be done!”